The Fear of Relying on Yourself


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The reason you doubt yourself is not because you don’t possess the skills or the grit necessary to push through the tremendous obstacles on your path.

It’s not a question of whether or not you can rely on yourself.

It never was.

The problem is that you don’t think you can rely on yourself.

That’s the difference.

It is also the reason why you doubt yourself.

For you to take that step, make that decision, and to go through with it, you have to be able to manage your fears.

You cannot make it go away. Fear is permanent.

But your relationship to fear is not.

This bad romance, you can alter and modify to your advantage.

Look at it. Stare it right in the eye if you must, but do not let it get the best of you.

It is not worth it. Observe it but do not let it pull you like a puppet.

Resent its attempts at steering you in the wrong direction, and for dissuading you from taking action.

Acknowledge your fear; be aware of its existence. But be equally aware that it can’t prevent you from taking proper action.

Exit the emotional mindset and enter the one of the observer.

Abstain from letting fear choose your path; get in the habit of trusting yourself and relying on your own strengths to carry you through the tempest.

Only then will you be able to make a move, take action, and carry out the necessary advancements in life, without letting fear stop you or send you off in the wrong direction –

It was never a question of whether or not you could rely on yourself.

The problem was that you thought you couldn’t.

The only difference is that now you believe you can.

You know which way to go.

So go.

You know what must be done.

Originally published on August 27, 2017. Updated October 30, 2018.